It’s an assumption that you’ve made on your own. I have been to over twenty weddings across my career, all from people I’ve shared a workplace with. I’ve bough

It’s an assumption that you’ve made on your own. I have been to over twenty weddings across my career, all from people I’ve shared a workplace with. I’ve bought baby shower gifts, I’ve been to graduations, birthdays, divorce hearings, rehab graduation, and more. I’d take a bullet for half the people in my contact list. Work is work. You’re either there to work, or you go somewhere else. You think because you take a sick day, I don’t care about you? Have you ever known someone who never called in, and then one day they called in? That’s someone who needs to be checked on. But for someone who calls and says “hey, I’m taking a mental health day” or “hey, I got too fucked up last night and I can’t navigate the daytime world” those are different situations. I respect my coworkers and colleagues enough to trust them to ask when they need help. If I say “hey, I need you or someone who can do it soon to just go through all the issues tagged merge and see which owners are here today” or something like that, then that person might say something like “ok, just to clarify, is there any simpler way to do that than by going all the tickets and then going through MS teams?” (ofc not, that would actually make sense) “Just” is a signal of simplicity. To have apprehension about it is itself a signal of anxiety. These are workable factors. What’s not workable is for you to say I have no empathy just because I have enough respect to treat my subordinates like adults and not coddle them.