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There’s a fantastic book and tv series by a research psychologist Brene Brown where she talks a lot about how to be on the listening end of these kinds of conve
by enneff 4y ago
There’s a fantastic book and tv series by a research psychologist Brene Brown where she talks a lot about how to be on the listening end of these kinds of conversations. Often in these situations the other party just wants to have their emotions validated by someone they trust. Just being there to acknowledge their feelings and see their pain is enough (and trying to do more can sometimes make things worse). I highly recommend checking Brown out, she is quite incredible.
- _carbyau_ 4y agoI agree and would like to emphasize the word "validation". It is less about "solving a problem" and more about "figuring out how to feel about the problem". Validation can help reduce emotional turmoil, distill it into a calmer set of feelings. The feelings may still be strong. The situation may still suck. But at least you can be sure of how much it sucks - because someone else you respect, see's it as valid too.