> Marriage has taught me to go even further than that. I now ask "are you telling me to get it off your chest, or you want help solving it?" I may be much slow

> Marriage has taught me to go even further than that. I now ask "are you telling me to get it off your chest, or you want help solving it?" I may be much slower to adapt. My wife of (almost) 30 years usually starts with explicit “I am telling you this to just get it off my chest”.