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Disclaimer: positive sentiment towards Meta app I'm a millennial and I use Instagram (mainly stories) as the primary tool for keeping in touch with people. It'

Disclaimer: positive sentiment towards Meta app I'm a millennial and I use Instagram (mainly stories) as the primary tool for keeping in touch with people. It's easier to share an image, maybe with a short caption, rather than composing a post, and consuming friend's stories are quicker than text posts since you don't need to read. It's a more efficient/faster way to know what my friends and family are up to and it prompts me to communicate with them more. I may be an outlier but I'm very bad at remembering to text/call/email friends if I don't see them regularly, so following them on IG helps a lot.

ipv6ipv4 4y ago
"It's easier to share an image, maybe with a short caption, rather than composing a post, and consuming friend's stories are quicker than text posts since you don't need to read." I don't want to invest the time and effort to really connect with people. "It's a more efficient/faster way to know what my friends and family are up to and it prompts me to communicate with them more." So I pretend. "I may be an outlier but I'm very bad at remembering to text/call/email friends if I don't see them regularly" In general, I can't be bothered to care about other people. Meaningful connections with people require time, effort, and care. There are no shortcuts.
- nicolashahn 4y ago
  You woke up and chose violence today, didn't you? Or is it just so impossible to believe that a social media product actually promotes pro-social behaviors?
  - ipv6ipv4 4y ago
    What you are describing is not pro-social. It's anti-social. That's the problem. Clearly, I failed in conveying that message.
    - cr1895 4y ago
      Your last line can stand very well on its own, and the judgmental fabrication before it was totally unnecessary.
      - ipv6ipv4 4y ago
        Can you point out the inaccuracies in the translation?
- avgcorrection 4y ago
  Do you connect with people by judging them?
  - oska 4y ago
    The feedback given was what a therapist might give, or even just what a self-help book might tell you. I don't see it as judging, I see it as stripping away rationalisations.
- hbn 4y ago
  The poster above was not describing a replacement for meaningful connections. You can do both. I have closer relationships with a select group of people, but there's others where it's fine if we only keep up with each other as much as instagram stories and occasional quick chats allow.
0xbadcafebee 4y ago
I remember using Instagram and thinking "why am I just staring at their feed and hitting like? Why don't I just text them 'hey how are you?'" So I quit social media and now I just text them. The difference is obvious now: the former wasn't real interaction, the latter is. Biggest difference: actually being surprised in a conversation where you didn't know something that happened to somebody.
- nicolashahn 4y ago
  You know you can message people in Instagram, right?
  - andirk 4y ago
    You can even call them in IG, but I've heard several people say they would find it highly insulting to get a call via Instagram.
dont__panic 4y ago
Maybe you should get your friends on Signal, and use their (E2EE!) Stories instead, if that's the only feature that matters to you?
- nicolashahn 4y ago
  I'd be happy to if they were open to it. The network effect means that that's not going to happen any time soon though. It's also not the only feature that matters to me, though. Also, their stories are brand new, so likely not at feature parity yet.

ipv6ipv4 4y ago

"It's easier to share an image, maybe with a short caption, rather than composing a post, and consuming friend's stories are quicker than text posts since you don't need to read." I don't want to invest the time and effort to really connect with people. "It's a more efficient/faster way to know what my friends and family are up to and it prompts me to communicate with them more." So I pretend. "I may be an outlier but I'm very bad at remembering to text/call/email friends if I don't see them regularly" In general, I can't be bothered to care about other people. Meaningful connections with people require time, effort, and care. There are no shortcuts.

nicolashahn 4y ago
You woke up and chose violence today, didn't you? Or is it just so impossible to believe that a social media product actually promotes pro-social behaviors?
- ipv6ipv4 4y ago
  What you are describing is not pro-social. It's anti-social. That's the problem. Clearly, I failed in conveying that message.
  - cr1895 4y ago
    Your last line can stand very well on its own, and the judgmental fabrication before it was totally unnecessary.
    - ipv6ipv4 4y ago
      Can you point out the inaccuracies in the translation?
avgcorrection 4y ago
Do you connect with people by judging them?
- oska 4y ago
  The feedback given was what a therapist might give, or even just what a self-help book might tell you. I don't see it as judging, I see it as stripping away rationalisations.
hbn 4y ago
The poster above was not describing a replacement for meaningful connections. You can do both. I have closer relationships with a select group of people, but there's others where it's fine if we only keep up with each other as much as instagram stories and occasional quick chats allow.

0xbadcafebee 4y ago

I remember using Instagram and thinking "why am I just staring at their feed and hitting like? Why don't I just text them 'hey how are you?'" So I quit social media and now I just text them. The difference is obvious now: the former wasn't real interaction, the latter is. Biggest difference: actually being surprised in a conversation where you didn't know something that happened to somebody.

nicolashahn 4y ago
You know you can message people in Instagram, right?
- andirk 4y ago
  You can even call them in IG, but I've heard several people say they would find it highly insulting to get a call via Instagram.

dont__panic 4y ago

Maybe you should get your friends on Signal, and use their (E2EE!) Stories instead, if that's the only feature that matters to you?

nicolashahn 4y ago
I'd be happy to if they were open to it. The network effect means that that's not going to happen any time soon though. It's also not the only feature that matters to me, though. Also, their stories are brand new, so likely not at feature parity yet.