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It may be the most helpful thing for them, but listening to someone else's problems could be emotionally taxing to the person listening. Double so, if the liste
by miroljub 4y ago
It may be the most helpful thing for them, but listening to someone else's problems could be emotionally taxing to the person listening. Double so, if the listener has a feeling that he's there just to listen, and that the person talking about the problem just wants to offload their issue to the listener, and is not at all interested about what the listener have to say about the topic.
If you want someone to just listen, go get a psychologist. They are at least paid to listen to other people's problems, and have tools not to take stuff personally and not to feel bad about it. And they get paid in the end.
- kayodelycaon 4y agoThe parent didn't say you had to stick around. People default to fixing things and need to know that's the wrong thing to do.
- miroljub 4y agoIn such situation, one should do what is the best for them. Not sticking around or running away may be unnatural and thus also emotionally taxing. Giving advice and trying to help, even if the person just wanted to vent, is not bad. You [1] came to me with your problem. Now it's not only your problem, it's also my problem, since you shared it with me. I want that problem to go away, and will help you or give you advice how to deal with it. Then I will feel better. If I just listen to you, it may be the best thing for you, but for me it is the wrong thing to do, since I'm not made that way. I you just want to vent so that you can feel better, don't make me feel worse because of that. Find someone else. [1] "You" and "me" used for clarity, since "they" & "them" is confusing.