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What a pathetic comment. My gut reaction to "I started sobbing" was "man, that's rough, I feel bad for them". No further assumption about their gender. Seems

by Eszik 4y ago

What a pathetic comment. My gut reaction to "I started sobbing" was "man, that's rough, I feel bad for them". No further assumption about their gender. Seems to me that you're projecting your thoughts on gender on her.

flumpcakes 4y ago
Everyone I know, both men and women, would think it is pathetic if I cried over mean internet comments. They would have a different reaction if it was my wife crying. Unfortunately it's still very socially acceptable to demonise men for being emotional.
- Elinvynia 4y ago
  That kind of sounds like you should surround yourself with different people that are more supportive of you.
  - flumpcakes 4y ago
    I understand your comment, but I think it is said from a privileged position. As a clarifying example; I don't think we would tell a young Iranian girl who is admonished in society for expressing herself to just "meet new people". Society is surprisingly immutable for a single person. I'm not even sure how to meet people if a requirement was that they would earnestly comfort a crying man.
hsn915 4y ago
This is your second comment since last year. Out of everything on HN, what made you want to comment on this? And to call it "pathetic" out of all things? I don't think it's pathetic. I think it's a truth that is considered impolite to discuss. I'm not even complaining about it. I'm just noting it.
- nanna 4y ago
  > This is your second comment since last year. What an incredibly strange premise for an argument.
  - scruple 4y ago
    What argument? I don't see an argument, I see a genuine question made in earnest.
    - hsn915 4y ago
      My intention was to point out that my comment probably enraged that person. Now, why where they enraged by it? I wasn't being inflammatory in tone, nor was I being antagonistic. So what would it be? As far as I can tell, people are enraged when they see something they don't like to be pointed out, pointed out. An "uncomfortable truth" so to speak. So being enraged and then commenting with "how pathetic" probably indicates that the person deep down understands that it's true.

by Eszik 4y ago

flumpcakes 4y ago

Everyone I know, both men and women, would think it is pathetic if I cried over mean internet comments. They would have a different reaction if it was my wife crying. Unfortunately it's still very socially acceptable to demonise men for being emotional.

Elinvynia 4y ago
That kind of sounds like you should surround yourself with different people that are more supportive of you.
- flumpcakes 4y ago
  I understand your comment, but I think it is said from a privileged position. As a clarifying example; I don't think we would tell a young Iranian girl who is admonished in society for expressing herself to just "meet new people". Society is surprisingly immutable for a single person. I'm not even sure how to meet people if a requirement was that they would earnestly comfort a crying man.

hsn915 4y ago

This is your second comment since last year. Out of everything on HN, what made you want to comment on this? And to call it "pathetic" out of all things? I don't think it's pathetic. I think it's a truth that is considered impolite to discuss. I'm not even complaining about it. I'm just noting it.

nanna 4y ago
> This is your second comment since last year. What an incredibly strange premise for an argument.
- scruple 4y ago
  What argument? I don't see an argument, I see a genuine question made in earnest.
  - hsn915 4y ago
    My intention was to point out that my comment probably enraged that person. Now, why where they enraged by it? I wasn't being inflammatory in tone, nor was I being antagonistic. So what would it be? As far as I can tell, people are enraged when they see something they don't like to be pointed out, pointed out. An "uncomfortable truth" so to speak. So being enraged and then commenting with "how pathetic" probably indicates that the person deep down understands that it's true.