I love how people went for the literal fire pit and pipes and started complaining about licenses and unusual items. I'll rephrase a bit and hope the parent her

I love how people went for the literal fire pit and pipes and started complaining about licenses and unusual items. I'll rephrase a bit and hope the parent here agrees with me. That's not the point. If a fire pit and pipes are not your thing or not allowed by police or space, just do a beer gathering at your roof. A tea gathering at your place. Have a few beers on the park and offer them to people. Whatever you're comfortable (or maybe slightly uncomfortable) with, with the goal of finding a small group of people that are local. They don't need to be your best friends. But speaking from experience, knowing local people helps. Especially if you're not from that place. Hopefully the point is the same and this makes it easier for others to not get defensive, but open-minded and willing to try.