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When your kids are young, they will depend upon you. As they grow, they will be attached to you. You will be joined at the hip and do everything together. Cheri
by anakaine 4y ago
When your kids are young, they will depend upon you. As they grow, they will be attached to you. You will be joined at the hip and do everything together. Cherish this.
As your kids progress through their teenage years, they will distance themselves from you. They may lie about what they are up to. They might argue with you, shout at you, and cut you out of the discussion even when you desperately want to be involved. You need to recognise when this is beginning to happen and change your method of parenting to become less telling, and more guiding, letting the rope out and providing a secure nest for them to come back to thats free of judgement and accusations. This will be incredibly hard for some people, and can honestly take a very long time to get right. During this time they are psychologically trying to find their own way and independence, and this is normal. Just be there to gently guide.
If you are kind, loving, guiding, involved, and nurturing, you can't really screw this up.
You've got this. Just keep in mind the above for 12-15 years from now for your own sanity.
- L0in 4y agoToo young to become a parent (by modern standards). I really liked your comment and I agree even though I have zero experience.
- HellDunkel 4y agoThanks! I should print this to remind me in a couple of years.
- thehoff 4y agoSomewhat same vein I tell my coworkers who are going to be new parents: Time really flies with kids. One minute you're changing diapers, next thing you know they are walking, then they're in middle/high school and have their friends they'd rather be with. As hard as it was I still tear up a little watching old video clips of ours as a toddler.
- rmwaite 4y agoI’d just like to echo this. I was told this when I had my first child, I understood what it meant and it seemed kind of obvious… It went by so much faster than I could have imagined. It’s actually baffling to me to think about my own childhood and how long it felt to me then - only for it to go by so quickly from the other side.
- Fire-Dragon-DoL 4y agoSetting up a calendar reminder for 8 years from now