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> I don't want to be the asshole to ask people to speak in English, or make my manager be that guy either. Well what do you want? Mandarin lessons for yoursel
by geocar 4y ago
> I don't want to be the asshole to ask people to speak in English, or make my manager be that guy either.
Well what do you want?
Mandarin lessons for yourself?
English lessons offered to your colleague?
To be moved to another team?
Or do you just want a way to make everyone speak English without people thinking you are “an asshole”?
You can talk to your manager about your feelings and what you want to happen, they will do something — maybe it’ll even be what you want, but they also might try to convince you this isn’t worth worrying about because you can’t be included in everything anyway.
Having some ideas of what you want to happen as opposed to simply the final state of things can prepare you to think about your actions and reactions affect others.
- dmichulke 4y agoThis, state your problem (I dont understand Mandarin?) and your needs (I want to be part of the discussions but I dont want to be the person pushing everyone to speak English all the time?). By asking your team (and hearing them) they will understand and maybe come up with solutions (see e.g. parent) themselves. At least in Western culture teams I'd do this, not sure whether Eastern culture people would really say what they think though.