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When I get overwhelmed I can sometimes see what needs to be done but the effort to do what I know needs done seems like 'so much'. Sometimes I know I can 'spin
by damascus 4y ago
When I get overwhelmed I can sometimes see what needs to be done but the effort to do what I know needs done seems like 'so much'. Sometimes I know I can 'spin up' my efforts enough to get it done.. but for some reason I have this judgement that spinning up that much effort "isn't worth it". Which is pretty silly.. I'm sitting here miserable with the ability to end it but yet still think that putting effort into my own success is somehow not worth it. Pretty telling.
So what I do is accept that its going to take a lot of effort -- and that effort is worth it!
Then I just have to get tactical about it. I have to use the skills and advice I've learned works.
1. Get momentum going early in the morning. I know.. everyone knows this. The thing is, it works. Just do 1 tiny little thing while I'm having my first cup of coffee. I use my Notes.app between my phone and mac, and I have a 'Daily & Affirmations' note that is pinned to the top of my list. In the 'Daily' section is a list of tiny tasks that need to be done that I've identified (I try to find these as I go through the day and throw them here so I can do something simple but useful the next morning.. setting my future self up for success). In the 'Affirmations' section I basically just remind myself that all of this is worth it. That living a life of freedom and peace is worth heroic effort. This is just a dragon that needs slaying (or whatever narrative works for you).
2. Chunk down. Again.. nothing ground breaking here.. but it works. Break big problems into small problems and small problems into smaller tasks. Then accept it may take me 2-3 weeks to get this all the way done.. but that progress builds and I get better and faster over time.. but even if I don't, that's ok. I'm making progress and that progress makes me feel better every day.
3. Hire people. You sound like you have some money now, maybe for the first time? If so, your stress is partly from the fact you are playing a bigger game but you are playing it according to rules of the small game you came from. Its time to update your game. Seriously, this isn't a trope. Find a good tax guy that responds to you in a timely manner. Hire a book keeper that will get all of your books in order and keep them that way. Hire a house keeper twice a month to clean your place. It really has a big impact on mental health. Money is a resource that you aren't using and its using you, to your detriment.
4. Sometimes more money isn't worth more stress. Brainstorm ways of getting some of your high stress money into lower stress areas and ACCEPT that you may end up with less money. If/when crypto makes new ATHs you'll probably kick yourself you didn't sell everything and buy more at the bottom.. and you'll forget just how incredibly miserable you were with what you did have at the bottom. Optimize for quality of life, not some number in a bank account.
FWIW I've been heavy in crypto since 2014 and haven't cashed out at any of the tops and rode them all the way down and all the way back up.. 3 times now. Fucking sucks ass to "lose" your entire net worth. Jesse Livermore was a famous billionaire solo trader in the 1930s and he had a phrase "sell to the sleeping point". Sell your shit down to the point you can sleep well at a night, anything more isn't worth any amount of money.
- Denniz 4y agoThanks a lot for the hints. 1. You are right. Everyone knows this, but yeah not always easy to follow. Especially if you are off balance. 2. Guess in my case, the most important things I want to solve take a long time. 3. Exactly. Regarding the tax guy. I had/have one, he was very responsible. But when he got the money, he became very slow. Still answers. But is extremely slow. Maybe will find someone new, but currently it doesn't make sense, since he is finishing his work. Every week he tells me a few more days. 4. You are exactly right. Money didn't change anything. It is just a number. Kind of ready to take losses, to get lower stress. Still, so far couldn't execute, since the most secure options refuse the service or need very long for onboarding. I think it is a good idea to have some wealth in crypto. But it is just crazy to have all of it. Especially, since in my case, most of it is in stablecoins. So could get nearly 4% in USD if it was on a bank account. PS: The whole situation is really strange. Guess that sucks most. I did everything according to the book. Did my tax returns. Didn't hide anything. Looking back, I really question the whole thing. I could just go far away. Cash out. Don't pay a penny, instead of nearly 50%. Would have less stress for sure.