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The best way to "optimize" for dating is to: 2) Become hot and 2) become happy. A happy and hot person is someone more people want to be around. If more people
by drooby 4y ago
The best way to "optimize" for dating is to: 2) Become hot and 2) become happy.
A happy and hot person is someone more people want to be around. If more people want to hang out with you, you have more options, become less needy, become more clear headed ... list goes on, it's a virtuous cycle.
Using the scale of 1-10 is not great, but its mildly accurate... most people, via work on their character, attitude, physic, lifestyle, finances, fashion, etc. can bump themselves up as much as like 3-6 "levels" on the "hot scale". Seriously. Some people can go from like a 3 to an 8. One's life changes drastically when this happens.
Doesn't matter if its a dating app, bar, friend of friend, w.e. It's much easier to find a partner if a person is very satisfied with who you are.
- EveYoung 4y agoFor me, it always comes down to genuine self-esteem. Someone's fashion style, physic, or facial symmetry really doesn't matter if they have no confidence in themselves.
- kokonoko 4y agoBut it does matter if the have.
- lupire 4y agoIn other words, have something to offer that is worth more to others than it is to you,so people want to be around you but don't drag you down. (This is looking-gglass similar but very diffrent from desperately simping, which costs you more than it benefits them).
- pcrh 4y agoAgreed. Perhaps it's due to the people who frequent HN, but it's amusing to see so many think they can "algorithm" their way into the relationship(s) they want. Some even proposing blockchain solutions!