While your first and second paragraph may generally be true the opposite can also be true. I do prefer receiving gifts when those gifts are informed. Which is

While your first and second paragraph may generally be true the opposite can also be true. I do prefer receiving gifts when those gifts are informed. Which is why asking about desired gifts is perfectly fine. There are certain classes of things that I do not consider necessary yet I would desire and for which the variety available results in paralysis of choice. For these, having the giver choose, and having the thing have additional sentimental value (it is from the giver) makes it more valuable than the thing itself.