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Being extroverted is not a useful skill. Communicating well when necessary is. Extroverts are not necessairily "good at communication" by nature. I employ a ve
by exabrial 4y ago
Being extroverted is not a useful skill. Communicating well when necessary is. Extroverts are not necessairily "good at communication" by nature.
I employ a very very introverted individual. When he comes to my desk, one can be absolutely assured you need to pay attention, because what he's about to say is 1. important, 2. well thought out, 3. he wouldn't be there if it weren't absolutely necessary.
The point being: everyone (ex and in) should learn to communicate better; _that_ is the useful skill.
- SketchySeaBeast 4y ago> Extroverts are "good at communication" by nature. Is that true they are good at it, or just more prolific with their communication?
- LeifCarrotson 4y agoEither the parent comment edited or you misquoted. Extroverts are not necessarily good at communication - quality over quantity is often better.
- SketchySeaBeast 4y agoThey must have edited, I copy & pasted. And that was my exact thoughts regarding quality vs quantity.
- MrPatan 4y agoIn the general case I'd bet on the person who gets more practice at something being better at it.
- tarboreus 4y agoYes, any given extrovert may not have good social skills, but extroverts as a class have better social skills on average through use.
- exabrial 4y agoapologies, I edited my grammatical mistake
- leros 4y agoBeing extroverted is absolutely a useful skill for certain things. Extroverts are going to talk to more people, which is going to make them better at networking and self promotion. Those things lead to making more connections, getting business opportunity, getting job opportunities, etc. I'm not saying that you can't be functional as an introvert, but being extroverted is definitely useful in many situations.
- GoblinSlayer 4y agoThat's a bad example to follow. Sociopaths are even better at self promotion.
- solarmist 4y agoSure, statistically. But there are far more important skills, like reflection, that trump that trait and an introvert will easily surpass an extrovert that is weak in learning from all those interactions.
- strix_varius 4y ago> Being extroverted is not a useful skill. The data disagrees with this assertion, to the point where quoting a single source would be silly (a quick search will find dozens of examples). Extroversion correlates with both income and happiness.
- danaris 4y agoBeing extraverted is not a skill at all. It is a trait. You cannot learn to be more extraverted. You can learn to act that way; you can learn to interact and communicate better...but you cannot learn to change how your brain recharges.
- astura 4y ago>You cannot learn to be more extraverted. You can learn to act that way; you can learn to interact and communicate better...but you cannot learn to change how your brain recharges My experience simply doesn't align with this.
- Kye 4y agoI remember being confused about sexuality: I couldn't be gay because I also liked women, so I must be straight. Then I realized there was a word to describe attraction that's indifferent to gender. Also turns out I'm nonbinary, which handily resolved similar confusion over gendered expectations. Anyway, you might be an ambivert. Society tries to shove us into neat, easy to reason about binaries, but humans just aren't binary. We exist largely on bimodal distributions and most people aren't all one or another of any particular thing.
- danaris 4y agoRight—I perhaps should have been clearer about this in my own post. It's definitely a spectrum, not a binary, though I'm not at all sure the distribution is normal (ie, a bell curve). I don't have any actual sources on that, though, and I'd be very intrigued to see a scientific study giving a population-level distribution of those traits in particular.