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I raised two successful CEOs and a doctor, here’s the unpopular parenting rules
- moistly 4y agoBut are they happy?
- cratermoon 4y ago"Don’t do anything for your kids that they can do for themselves." Nothing new here. Also, what makes someone who raised CEOs and a doctor special? What about the moms who raised Stanislav Petrov[1], Vivian Juanita Malone Jones[2], and James Chaney[3]? I'd much rather hear from them than someone selling her book. 1. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stanislav_Petrov https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stanislav_Petrov 2. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vivian_Malone_Jones https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vivian_Malone_Jones 3. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Chaney https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Chaney
- senttoschool 4y agoNothing new here. Also, what makes someone who raised CEOs and a doctor special? It's new to me. I'm glad to have read the article and the results suggest that it could work. I will try it with my own kids. 3/3 successful adults is a pretty good rate. I'll take it.
- eesmith 4y agoThere's a strong bias error. If 1% of kids are successful, even with a poor parenting strategy, then one out of every million 3-kid families will have successful adults. The approach described appears to be a "Authoritative" approach, using the definition at https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parenting_styles https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parenting_styles "Authoritative" is different than "Authoritarian". Thing is, we also see authoritariana families (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tiger_parenting https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tiger_parenting lists "tiger mom", "American stage mother", "Japanese kyōiku mama", "Jewish mother (stereotype)" as examples) which also have 3/3 successful adults. How then do you decide which approach to take, if you only look at the successful cases?
- AlmostAnyone 4y agoThere's much more than one in a million successful 3-kid families, so it's pretty likely this is not a fluke.
- eesmith 4y agoSure. That's because most families do not have poor parenting strategy. My point was that even with poor parenting, there can be a 3-kid family where all three kids are successful. That doesn't mean the parenting strategy should be widely replicated, given that there are more generally successful methods.
- AlmostAnyone 4y agoCould you be more specific about these generally successful methods? If it is so simple, why are people looking for new/other strategies?
- eesmith 4y agoI already linked to https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parenting_styles https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parenting_styles which goes into far more details than I can provide, and with additional links. Who said any of these 'generally successful methods' were simple? Losing weight is - in principle - a matter of eating less and exercising more. If it's so simple, why are people looking for new/other strategies? The author of this piece is also the author of a book on how to raise children. There are oodles of these sorts of books, with all sorts of different and conflicting advice.
- cratermoon 4y agoI see no one has followed up on my implicit argument that the definition of "success" in the original article is itself a problem.
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- ggm 4y ago> "Don’t do anything for your kids that they can do for themselves." Except when like anyone, they need it. Exam times. When they're ill. If they carry two jobs, while pregnant, and the car breaks down. There are times to break this rule, but you would anyway, for anyone.