Agree - I always go for compliments about a choice someone made rather than some quality I perceive them to have. This suggests admiration for something they i

Agree - I always go for compliments about a choice someone made rather than some quality I perceive them to have. This suggests admiration for something they intended to do or worked on. "I love that sweater" [that you chose] is a lot friendlier IMO than "you look great in that sweater" I also try to indicate with my tone and bearing that a response is not expected, a good compliment is a gift (IMO) and gifts are freely given without expectation of payback. I also like to stick to commentary I feel i actually know anything about, i wear earrings, so often comment about them. I dont wear makeup, so i rarely go there. I think fancy shoes are fun, etc.