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My two sons were different from day one. It gives me a lot of comfort to know, as a parent, that it wasn't all up to how I brought them up. In a similar vein,
by dtgriscom 4y ago
My two sons were different from day one. It gives me a lot of comfort to know, as a parent, that it wasn't all up to how I brought them up.
In a similar vein, I don't understand people who want to know their child's gender before birth. Even ignoring the whole transgender and non-binary aspect, it's like they want to have their kids figured out at birth. Just because this one will be born with a penis, or that one with a vagina, doesn't mean you know anything about who they are and who they will become.
- DangitBobby 4y agoIf sex doesn't matter, what difference does it make if you know before birth? If you are getting sonograms done, the doctor will know and be able to tell you pretty early on. Is there some benefit to not knowing?
- version_five 4y agoI don't identify with this at all. There is choosing a name, buying clothes, decorating (not my thing personally but definitely a thing). Plus imagining your new baby as part of your life. Boiling it down to knowing their sex organ is pretty reductive and not in line with the feelings of anyone I know.
- mc32 4y agoFor the first month, it really doesn't matter, really. Furniture is the same, car seats the same, clothing, sure, but you can buy that any time and does not require planning. And as it regards names, just have agreed upon two options, one for each case.
- nkrisc 4y agoOr just find out because it doesn’t matter either way? Or don’t. I wanted to know for both my children. It didn’t make any difference, but I still just wanted to know because I could and was curious.
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- Mikeb85 4y ago> There is choosing a name So choose two... > buying clothes Tons of gender neutral clothing especially for newborns... Ours has a lot of green, white, beige, gray. Plus some pink and blue because who says boys can't wear pink? (And because lots of people gave us lots of baby shit) > decorating Heavily gendered rooms are strange to me... And who's to say the child will even like it? > Plus imagining your new baby as part of your life. Honestly not knowing the sex was helpful in not trying to guess how they'd be and fit into our life... We were surprised by his sex and are constantly surprised by his attitude.
- yucky 4y agoIt's getting harder every day to tell what is/isn't parody.
- Mikeb85 4y agoSo you think if we don't paint our son's room blue and dress him in nothing but camo he'll want to chop his balls off later? No, you Americans just have ridiculous views (left and right).
- version_five 4y agoI thought the same thing
- whatshisface 4y agoIt sounds like they just had a misinterpreted ultrasound.
- raydiatian 4y agoWere your sons fish? the article uses fish. > Poecilia formosa
- munchbunny 4y agoIn a similar vein, I don't understand people who want to know their child's gender before birth. Even ignoring the whole transgender and non-binary aspect, it's like they want to have their kids figured out at birth. Or maybe it’s just so easy to find out the gender during medical screenings that you have to not look on purpose, so why not look? Then you don’t have to go out of your way to plan for two (pretty much) mutually exclusive possibilities. Parents who want their children’s paths predestined don’t have a “knowing the child’s gender” problem, they have a “you can’t control your child’s basic personality” problem.