I would put it differently. Stoicism is about realising what you have control over and what you do not. It about acknowledging the agency you have no matter ho

I would put it differently. Stoicism is about realising what you have control over and what you do not. It about acknowledging the agency you have no matter how little it may be. Even if you have a tendency to be very reactive there is always something you can do to nullify or lessen the impact of an insult.