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Ironically, adopting this attitude almost gave me a breakdown, but I got MS when I was 26 and then ended up being a caretaker for my sister with bipolar. I blam
by Mezzie 4y ago
Ironically, adopting this attitude almost gave me a breakdown, but I got MS when I was 26 and then ended up being a caretaker for my sister with bipolar. I blamed myself for everything - after all, everybody else with my skill level/education can work 40+ hours a week in a professional job, so clearly there must be SOME answer. If programs don't work for us, I must have been doing something wrong. I would spend all of my free time searching for solutions and blaming myself for the situation, which just made me depressed and suicidal.
So your results may vary. I have found that being scathingly honest about where I do have agency (as you mention in your last paragraph) is very helpful.
- vecter 4y agoYou raise a good point. Self-love and extreme ownership are orthogonal. You can practice extreme ownership and hold yourself accountable for your life, but you do not need to do it in a toxic self-destructive way. I've always held myself to a high bar and would often harshly berate myself when I did something wrong. Now I do it in a healthy constructive manner while still holding myself accountable.