My own interpretation: this person said something negative about me. I now like them less and don’t want to spend time with them. That is not okay, because I’m

My own interpretation: this person said something negative about me. I now like them less and don’t want to spend time with them. That is not okay, because I’m keeping score (remembering their past actions and using it to decide future outcomes) and I’m preferring not to spend time with them. Combined with the other comments, you’re also not allowed to change your own behavior based on what other people say (sticks and stones, outsider). Sounds like a coping mechanism for dealing with trauma from a family member. Your parent is horrible to you, but you want a parent to love and be loved by, so you decide keeping score is immoral. You also don’t want to feel responsible and lessen the impact, so you decide words don’t hurt. It’s horrible advice for a kid. You won’t mold yourself to fit into the group (also called socialization, totally normal and healthy) and you won’t cut ties with people that are awful to you. Maybe you’ll be lucky enough to find another kid who accepts you. Much more likely a bully will latch on.