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What specifically helped you? Just the attitude you mentioned? Which is more just doing something and not having excuses etc... I'm feeling a little lost/confu

What specifically helped you? Just the attitude you mentioned? Which is more just doing something and not having excuses etc... I'm feeling a little lost/confused/stuck/overwhelmed at the moment and nothing really makes sense to me.. in that context the advice would be what? To get offline, work hard and focus, sleep and fitness?

davidguetta 4y ago
The fact I realized I was finding excuses to myself all the time to watch videos late at night, not counting calories or doing sport every because it 'would be hard'. Turned out it was not THAT hard once I decided it wasn't somehow and the past 6 weeks have been great. I know that sounds weird but first basically the guy has a way of talking that's just .. 'motivating'. Secondly it feels like he's with you when he says stuff like "of course it's hard, ITS SUPPOSED TO BE !" and also reading the testimonials of his university on the net where it looks like a bunch of young guys just followed the advice and went kickboxing everyday felt ... relatable so It stung me in my pride to not do it since I see myself as quite ambitious ^^. Wouldn't see myself paying for his stuff though (yet?). For your case you'd need to tell more in what you are feeling overwhelmed. It could be all in your head or it could also be dealing with breakup, death of a relative and/or shitty wage and rent increase in the US at the same time for what I know ^^. Maybe just watch a few motiational videos (and also this long one which is super funny if you can take a step back: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4isrrclZu0 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4isrrclZu0). Also one book I'm reading recently that is really nice is "atomic habits" (and also 'rich dad poor dad'). If you have troubles getting girls I also have other materials but I'd def get banned if I post it here so give me a mail adress to send it
j33zusjuice 4y ago
I have no affiliation with this place, and I haven’t done the assessment, myself, but this is something I’ve been looking in to doing because I so often feel like I’m in the wrong line of work, and that I’m wasting my life chasing other people’s dreams. https://www.jocrf.org/testing/who-should-be-tested/ https://www.jocrf.org/testing/who-should-be-tested/ I’ve read really great things about this place on Reddit (and a couple of negative things, too). If you have the money for it, it could be good. Also if you have the money (I’m assuming you’re in the US, but I also don’t that other countries’ medical care covers this), see a therapist. You’ll likely have to go through a few before you find someone with whom you click, but a good therapist can help you work through those feelings. Motivational speakers are good at times, but their messages pose the risk of being taken too literally or too far, and being turned into a very unhealthy hyper-independence. This compounds your problems because not only are you whatever negative adjective for having problems in the first place, you’re now also a failure for being unable to fix the problems. Sometimes, we can’t solve our problems alone, and that’s ok. By all means, watch some motivational speakers on YT. I named CT Fletcher as someone I loved in another comment, I used to watch and listen to Tony Robbins all the time. It’s all good in moderation. But don’t believe that you’re all alone in any of your problems.

davidguetta 4y ago

The fact I realized I was finding excuses to myself all the time to watch videos late at night, not counting calories or doing sport every because it 'would be hard'. Turned out it was not THAT hard once I decided it wasn't somehow and the past 6 weeks have been great. I know that sounds weird but first basically the guy has a way of talking that's just .. 'motivating'. Secondly it feels like he's with you when he says stuff like "of course it's hard, ITS SUPPOSED TO BE !" and also reading the testimonials of his university on the net where it looks like a bunch of young guys just followed the advice and went kickboxing everyday felt ... relatable so It stung me in my pride to not do it since I see myself as quite ambitious ^^. Wouldn't see myself paying for his stuff though (yet?). For your case you'd need to tell more in what you are feeling overwhelmed. It could be all in your head or it could also be dealing with breakup, death of a relative and/or shitty wage and rent increase in the US at the same time for what I know ^^. Maybe just watch a few motiational videos (and also this long one which is super funny if you can take a step back: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4isrrclZu0 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4isrrclZu0). Also one book I'm reading recently that is really nice is "atomic habits" (and also 'rich dad poor dad'). If you have troubles getting girls I also have other materials but I'd def get banned if I post it here so give me a mail adress to send it

j33zusjuice 4y ago

I have no affiliation with this place, and I haven’t done the assessment, myself, but this is something I’ve been looking in to doing because I so often feel like I’m in the wrong line of work, and that I’m wasting my life chasing other people’s dreams. https://www.jocrf.org/testing/who-should-be-tested/ https://www.jocrf.org/testing/who-should-be-tested/ I’ve read really great things about this place on Reddit (and a couple of negative things, too). If you have the money for it, it could be good. Also if you have the money (I’m assuming you’re in the US, but I also don’t that other countries’ medical care covers this), see a therapist. You’ll likely have to go through a few before you find someone with whom you click, but a good therapist can help you work through those feelings. Motivational speakers are good at times, but their messages pose the risk of being taken too literally or too far, and being turned into a very unhealthy hyper-independence. This compounds your problems because not only are you whatever negative adjective for having problems in the first place, you’re now also a failure for being unable to fix the problems. Sometimes, we can’t solve our problems alone, and that’s ok. By all means, watch some motivational speakers on YT. I named CT Fletcher as someone I loved in another comment, I used to watch and listen to Tony Robbins all the time. It’s all good in moderation. But don’t believe that you’re all alone in any of your problems.