I don't think this made the biggest positive change for me, but it is an attitude I have found exceptionally useful, because it's an exceptional behavior that I

I don't think this made the biggest positive change for me, but it is an attitude I have found exceptionally useful, because it's an exceptional behavior that I don't see in others: If you're struggling, search harder. Specifically, search. Not work--you're probably already working hard if you're struggling. But so many problems people have are proximity based, and sometimes you need to exhaust your search options before you figure out that the problem you had is really difficult to solve, because nearly no one is addressing it on a statistical basis. This applies to finding a good price on repairs, finding a decent paying job, or understanding if you're solving a general solution in a known suboptimal way. Search harder. A lot of our actions depend on the information we collect and how we process it to make decisions. And most people you know aren't going out of their way to understand what information they have at their disposal. They're making decisions based on what is in front of them. And a lot of life we live today is based on interactions we make with people we don't know thinking a lot about how they can be the one to present information to us, and sometimes by explicitly leaving alternative information out. I hope that helps you see life through a different prism.