one was "if you want someone to like you, become a person they would want to like." turns out there's lots of reasons why someone might like someone else. I jus

one was "if you want someone to like you, become a person they would want to like." turns out there's lots of reasons why someone might like someone else. I just assumed they only liked people for the same reasons I did (like vanity). another was "women don't owe you just because you're a nice guy." took a while to accept that I had been telling myself a lie, that I would naturally attract women just from being nice, and was getting subconsciously angry at women when my presumption didn't pan out. and another was "is this what they want, or what you want?" works in a lot of situations. I think it helped me have more compassion/empathy, but also avoid situations where one of us would have been unhappy.