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My operating systems professor liked to engage his audience during lectures, so it was commonly more of a dialogue than a lecture. At one point he gave us some
by Tade0 4y ago
My operating systems professor liked to engage his audience during lectures, so it was commonly more of a dialogue than a lecture. At one point he gave us some problem to consider, we didn't know what to make of it, so we started asking how to approach this. His reply:
"You're asking me? Soon enough you'll be engineers. You're the experts people will come to for solutions."
More of a reminder than advice, but it affected my approach.
Other, unrelated, but also life-changing, even though I don't remember who gave it:
"Never explain yourself unless explicitly asked to."
EDIT: This one is from my Argentinian AirBnB host in Switzerland:
"If you didn't make time for it, it wasn't actually important enough for you."
- formerly_proven 4y ago> "Never explain yourself unless explicitly asked to." Becomes truer the more you want to explain yourself in a situation.
- mrj 4y ago"Never explain yourself unless explicitly asked to." Hm, I wonder what context you use this in? My experience has been different, that succinctly telling people about your motivations and thoughts, and truly being vulnerable, is an important part of forming relationships and preventing misunderstandings. And everything is relationships. I've worked really hard to figure out how to be clearer with everybody in my life, which has improved things greatly. It's hard to understand other people's experiences and misunderstandings are rife. It doesn't mean that I'm asking for approval. I'm being more authentically myself. Relationships are weak without that vulnerability and shared understanding.
- Tade0 4y agoMy experience is that people treat it as making excuses and don't respond to this well. Perhaps it's a cultural thing.