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The best friends you will make are through shared pain and adversity. This is generally why lifelong friendships develop in college, the military, and startups
by poorbutdebtfree 4y ago
The best friends you will make are through shared pain and adversity. This is generally why lifelong friendships develop in college, the military, and startups. Seek something to endure and you'll have friends that you'll invite to your kid's wedding 25 years later.
- nonasktell 4y agoI read that more than once before. And while I agree(even though a lot of the people I've suffered with didn't stay my friends), it seems "slightly" unhealthy to look for a situation where I could suffer just to form a bond through shared trauma with people
- legerdemain 4y agoMany opportunities! Prison, the Peace Corps, I've read on HN about tech CEOs working at Amazon warehouses to reconnect with their social side... You could go be a part of the technical or scientific staff at a polar research station, or work on an Alaskan fishing boat. There are so many exciting ways to make lifelong friendships!
- marssaxman 4y agoBurning Man works this way for many people.