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You're projecting a lot of other people's nonsense onto me. Throwing away a gift that you do, in fact, know someone gave you in earnest still feels like shit. S

You're projecting a lot of other people's nonsense onto me. Throwing away a gift that you do, in fact, know someone gave you in earnest still feels like shit. So you wind up in a no-win situation. At least if you're a nice person. And then you come in telling me I'm an asshole for having independent taste, and telling me I should just mold my personality to whatever nonsense other people decide to give me, and really I don't have my own taste after all and it's normal to submerge myself in the crap other people saddle me with. You come in telling me, and everyone else in this thread with the same position, that you know better than we do about our personality on the basis of exactly zero personal acquaintance. Just because you're cool with your llama cufflinks doesn't mean everyone else needs to be cool with the arbitrary bullshit that gets flung at us. Fuck off with that shit.

noduerme 4y ago
It's just wild to me that someone could care so much about it, or get so worked up. I'm not telling you to let other people mold your personality. I'm just saying it often happens and it's not really an earth-shattering tragedy if it does. You can also do what most people do which is put stuff you don't want to throw away in a box in the closet and forget about it.
- andrewflnr 4y ago
  Any papercut, iterated enough times with no good way to respond, eventually becomes a source of anger. I bet there are other things about people that will make more sense to you with that in mind.
  - noduerme 4y ago
    Life is full of repeated, daily annoyances. Allowing yourself to get angry about them is a choice. Traffic is super irritating. But if you get angrier and angrier every day you have to fight traffic until you explode, that's an anger management problem. Taking a breath and letting the small shit go, accepting that other people do dumb things sometimes, you don't have to succumb to anger. Anger is where you stop being smart. Papercuts are just papercuts. You wouldn't scream at the first or the hundredth. They won't kill you. They heal and you get more. That's life.

noduerme 4y ago

It's just wild to me that someone could care so much about it, or get so worked up. I'm not telling you to let other people mold your personality. I'm just saying it often happens and it's not really an earth-shattering tragedy if it does. You can also do what most people do which is put stuff you don't want to throw away in a box in the closet and forget about it.

andrewflnr 4y ago
Any papercut, iterated enough times with no good way to respond, eventually becomes a source of anger. I bet there are other things about people that will make more sense to you with that in mind.
- noduerme 4y ago
  Life is full of repeated, daily annoyances. Allowing yourself to get angry about them is a choice. Traffic is super irritating. But if you get angrier and angrier every day you have to fight traffic until you explode, that's an anger management problem. Taking a breath and letting the small shit go, accepting that other people do dumb things sometimes, you don't have to succumb to anger. Anger is where you stop being smart. Papercuts are just papercuts. You wouldn't scream at the first or the hundredth. They won't kill you. They heal and you get more. That's life.