If your intrinsic motivation is for your family, you might be able to pull it off. It's a recipe for burnout, but it can be doable. Assuming that the work itsel

If your intrinsic motivation is for your family, you might be able to pull it off. It's a recipe for burnout, but it can be doable. Assuming that the work itself is something you're not intrinsically motivated for. You'd also be sacrificing a lot with time with your family. Your marriage will get tested. You'll miss out on some things with your kids growing up. If the stress is severe enough that it changes how you would habitually relate to your family (getting crankier, for example), that is the kind of dad you will be remembered by your kids. The question is if on your deathbed, looking back at how it all played out, that the sacrifice was worth it. I don't think there is a universally right or wrong choice in this. The emotional toll of not having enough to support your family and being in a soul-sucking job is worse.