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Any time someone gives me chocolate as a gift I say a polite thank-you and then discretely throw it in the trash. Maybe I'm an outlier, or maybe not...

by lukego 4y ago

unwind 4y ago
You forgot the why-part, which certainly seems on topic in this thread. a) You just don't like chocolate and never eat/bake/cook with it, b) You really like chocolate but only very particular/fancy kinds that people never manage to gift you, c) Sonething else that would be actually interesting to hear.
- lukego 4y ago
  Generally I'd hesitate to buy people sugar, alcohol, tobacco, drugs, video games, dvd collections, etc. It might upset the balance of their relationship with those things. A lot of people struggle with that stuff. So if you give me a box of chocolates, a case of beer, a carton of cigarettes, a bag of weed, the latest Call of Duty, or a Game of Thrones boxed set, I'll thank you politely and then dump it. I don't enjoy doing that one bit but it beats eating/drinking/smoking/playing/watching stuff that I'd otherwise deliberately refrain from.
- astura 4y ago
  C) They have a restrictive diet.
  - lukego 4y ago
    Or just issues with sugar. In a country with ~40% obesity there will be plenty of people who are happy to get a box of chocolates, eat it with great joy, and then spend a few hours in self-loathing because they really shouldn't have. Surely it's bad enough having all the trashy sugary junk food on display at the supermarket check-out without the extra step of people actually buying it on your behalf... See also people who give absurd quantities of candy to other peoples' kids and think that's great on the basis of the immediate reaction of joy...
    - lukego 4y ago
      (I post these comments mostly to be able to laugh at how lame I am becoming as I grow up :))
- lukego 4y ago
  This could be a country-specific problem here in Sweden. I am on the other side of it today: I travelled abroad last week and bought a last-minute gift for the family on the way home: a box of sugary sweets. But nobody in the family wants to eat them. They all have a fixed quota of sweets each week (Swedish lordagsgodis [1]) and so choosing candy to eat is a zero-sum game. This random confectionery didn't make the cut. So into the bin they go. Seems a shame but I'm used to it by now. [1] https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20211004-lrdagsgodis-swedens-saturday-only-candy-tradition https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20211004-lrdagsgodis-sw...
Ma8ee 4y ago
Oh no! You just got a present to give. Don’t throw it away, give it to someone who actually likes chocolate, which fortunately is most people.
muzani 4y ago
Well, you just let me know, so I won't be getting you a box of chocolates. Paradoxically, a lot of people could be like that, but they appear to be outliers because they never say it out loud. What kind of gifts would you prefer?

Any time someone gives me chocolate as a gift I say a polite thank-you and then discretely throw it in the trash. Maybe I'm an outlier, or maybe not...

by lukego 4y ago

Any time someone gives me chocolate as a gift I say a polite thank-you and then discretely throw it in the trash. Maybe I'm an outlier, or maybe not...

unwind 4y ago

You forgot the why-part, which certainly seems on topic in this thread. a) You just don't like chocolate and never eat/bake/cook with it, b) You really like chocolate but only very particular/fancy kinds that people never manage to gift you, c) Sonething else that would be actually interesting to hear.

lukego 4y ago
Generally I'd hesitate to buy people sugar, alcohol, tobacco, drugs, video games, dvd collections, etc. It might upset the balance of their relationship with those things. A lot of people struggle with that stuff. So if you give me a box of chocolates, a case of beer, a carton of cigarettes, a bag of weed, the latest Call of Duty, or a Game of Thrones boxed set, I'll thank you politely and then dump it. I don't enjoy doing that one bit but it beats eating/drinking/smoking/playing/watching stuff that I'd otherwise deliberately refrain from.
astura 4y ago
C) They have a restrictive diet.
- lukego 4y ago
  Or just issues with sugar. In a country with ~40% obesity there will be plenty of people who are happy to get a box of chocolates, eat it with great joy, and then spend a few hours in self-loathing because they really shouldn't have. Surely it's bad enough having all the trashy sugary junk food on display at the supermarket check-out without the extra step of people actually buying it on your behalf... See also people who give absurd quantities of candy to other peoples' kids and think that's great on the basis of the immediate reaction of joy...
  - lukego 4y ago
    (I post these comments mostly to be able to laugh at how lame I am becoming as I grow up :))
lukego 4y ago
This could be a country-specific problem here in Sweden. I am on the other side of it today: I travelled abroad last week and bought a last-minute gift for the family on the way home: a box of sugary sweets. But nobody in the family wants to eat them. They all have a fixed quota of sweets each week (Swedish lordagsgodis [1]) and so choosing candy to eat is a zero-sum game. This random confectionery didn't make the cut. So into the bin they go. Seems a shame but I'm used to it by now. [1] https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20211004-lrdagsgodis-swedens-saturday-only-candy-tradition https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20211004-lrdagsgodis-sw...

Ma8ee 4y ago

Oh no! You just got a present to give. Don’t throw it away, give it to someone who actually likes chocolate, which fortunately is most people.

muzani 4y ago

Well, you just let me know, so I won't be getting you a box of chocolates. Paradoxically, a lot of people could be like that, but they appear to be outliers because they never say it out loud. What kind of gifts would you prefer?