I rather prefer the way where the giving person thinks something that according to them is nice enough to be gifted to the receiving person - for both giving an

I rather prefer the way where the giving person thinks something that according to them is nice enough to be gifted to the receiving person - for both giving and receiving. Otherwise it honestly kills the novelty and romance of it. On the other hand, I am into notebooks and fountain pens and till today even I don’t know what kind I am really into. So until I have seen it, touched it, held in my hand I don’t know what I want. My friends definitely don’t. I usually gift hardcover “good” books. Not what I “know” they like, but what I “think” they’ll like. And even non-readers have finished most of my printed books.