It's not about getting the best, it's about finding that which establishes the relationship, in particular that you know them, remember what was said, have shar

It's not about getting the best, it's about finding that which establishes the relationship, in particular that you know them, remember what was said, have shared experiences. Example: Someone I was fairly fond of was retiring, a few levels above me. Traditionally, items are given. I gave an autographed copy of a particular book (we discussed it in my job interview over ten years prior) which related to our profession, a special dessert one (from the area in which she served in the Peace Corps), and a bottle of dandelion wine (her favorite author was Bradbury, who just died, and who authored Dandelion Wine). These went over well, despite not being the rarest of books or the most expensive of wines, but because of the dependence on and acknowledgement of my knowledge of her.