The goal for everyone is should be to make sure you have enough cushions in your finances and other parts of your life that you can politely say “fuck off” when

The goal for everyone is should be to make sure you have enough cushions in your finances and other parts of your life that you can politely say “fuck off” whenever or whyever you feel like you’re being treated poorly. I mostly agree, but it is very difficult to get there, and once you're there it's easy to forget how lucky you got along the way. So I would say the goal should be to have enough cushions to stand up for yourself and others, knowing you could afford to leave at any time.