I stopped reading at the 3rd paragraph. Not that the article was bad. But that it took me to a difficult place[1], where I had to consider the "what if" scena

I stopped reading at the 3rd paragraph. Not that the article was bad. But that it took me to a difficult place[1], where I had to consider the "what if" scenarios that I dreaded. It sounds like this happened around the same time as our experience. What I recall of my experience, I went into sort of a relentlessly optimistic support guy. Suppressing everything I was thinking and worrying about, so as to take care of my family. Our outcome was different. My wife of 31+ years is sitting a mere 1 meter from me on our couch, watching a TV show with our 22 year old daughter (12 at the time of the event). She is officially a survivor. I've commented to my therapist that there really doesn't seem to be much support for families/spouses for survivors. This was a tremendously traumatic experience, that I only started addressing last year. Vocalizing your fears is hard, after you've buried them for so long to support your family. I'm sure this is a good article. I just can't read beyond where I went. Likewise, the last episode of "How I met your mother" hit me very hard (1 scene, barely 30 seconds). I've never been able to complete that. Its not that I can't watch/read these things, its that it resonates uncomfortably with my own experiences, and I don't wish to experience that discomfort if at all possible. [1] https://blog.scalability.org/2011/11/ot-it-really-focuses-your-attention-on-the-important-things/ https://blog.scalability.org/2011/11/ot-it-really-focuses-yo...