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I'm sorry it apparently rubbed you off the wrong way, but I really meant no judgment or claiming that reading this makes me feel better about myself because I t
by brunooliv 4y ago
I'm sorry it apparently rubbed you off the wrong way, but I really meant no judgment or claiming that reading this makes me feel better about myself because I take valuable lessons from it while somehow being dettached from the real consequences as you rightly point out.
I ended up empathizing more peraphs because I have experienced some level of loss in my life both from family members and friends when I was very very young, and I feel that reading a text line this one many decades later probably triggered something in my subconscious in that I could probably understand how this dad was feeling in a way that I could not comprehend when I experienced those aforementioned losses when I was much younger.
I'm not claiming to understand his exact situation, I'm not married, I don't have kids and it's not something you can project or relativize in any way, we're on the same page there.
I just meant that understanding part of the feelings of grief and the innocent way that Lilly near the end of the article says she'd search every cloud just moved me in a way that I also found unexpected myself, that's all. I know I'm not special and I don't want to be or claim to be, because I know everybody will experience loss, but, simultaneously, this just hit me more than I expected it would which is what moved me to write the above comment, it was truly sincere.
- theGnuMe 4y agoI didn't take or see any selfishness in your comment. You can certainly empathize with someone and feel for them without having been in their shoes. That is the whole point of good writing (which you experienced). It is supposed to do that, to transport you there. You felt the author's lived experience and their is nothing wrong with that. It is supposed to expand your life experience and make you think.
- such12 4y agoYou have nothing to feel ashamed about or to apologize for. The person who replied to you at best appears to have misunderstood what you said.