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I don’t expect an older designer to have that Rolodex because I am an older designer and don’t have one. I just understand that that is a problem that wishing

I don’t expect an older designer to have that Rolodex because I am an older designer and don’t have one. I just understand that that is a problem that wishing the world was fair in ways that benefited me won’t solve. If the OP doesn’t have the Rolodex of people who would work with them again - like me - then it is a problem. Or possibly a symptom of a deeper issue of why people don’t want to work with them. Or possibly the result of bad luck. Or some combination of all that. None of which “it ain’t fair” changes. Either a person is so good they can’t be ignored or they aren’t. And sometimes what can’t be ignored is a chip on the shoulder. [edit] The comment points to reasons a younger designer may tend to be a better hire. A younger designer might ask “what’s a Rolodex?” and then start filling theirs up instead of arguing about it. It is easy to work with someone who is still learning. It is unpleasant to work with someone argumentative. Came to understand that the hard way.

maxbond 4y ago
You're going in a tangential direction. GP wasn't complaining about an unfairness, but explaining that an attitude was harmful. You misinterpreted them and then came to an ageist conclusion based on that misunderstanding, really making their case for them.
gaadd33 4y ago
I'm curious, do you really not stay in contact with anyone you have worked with in the past in any capacity? Or is it more that they wouldn't work with you again? Just curious since even as someone who sucks at "networking" and that sort of thing, I feel like I've worked with people that we mutually respect each other's skill regardless if it's direct reporting lines.
- brudgers 4y ago
  To paraphrase Peter Thiel paraphrasing Anna Karina, happy careers are all alike, every unhappy career is unhappy in its own way. Not that I am unhappy. Rather that instead of having delusions about a professional career, I have a day job and pursue artistic practice and live in paradise. I go with the luck I have and don’t waste energy over the luck I don’t.

maxbond 4y ago

You're going in a tangential direction. GP wasn't complaining about an unfairness, but explaining that an attitude was harmful. You misinterpreted them and then came to an ageist conclusion based on that misunderstanding, really making their case for them.

gaadd33 4y ago

I'm curious, do you really not stay in contact with anyone you have worked with in the past in any capacity? Or is it more that they wouldn't work with you again? Just curious since even as someone who sucks at "networking" and that sort of thing, I feel like I've worked with people that we mutually respect each other's skill regardless if it's direct reporting lines.

brudgers 4y ago
To paraphrase Peter Thiel paraphrasing Anna Karina, happy careers are all alike, every unhappy career is unhappy in its own way. Not that I am unhappy. Rather that instead of having delusions about a professional career, I have a day job and pursue artistic practice and live in paradise. I go with the luck I have and don’t waste energy over the luck I don’t.