> The idea that we must perfect ourselves before we enter a relationship with others is common in internet advice and frankly wrong. Ok when they give consent

> The idea that we must perfect ourselves before we enter a relationship with others is common in internet advice and frankly wrong. Ok when they give consent like your spouse. The to be born kid did not. Kids are not anyone's property to experiment with. You should not force a 3rd parson (the kid) without their consent into your life if you are not mentally and physically well. Do whatever you want with your own life that does not involve unwilling subject. Personally, I would not wish to be born to someone who is struggling, which will make me suffer later. Most people only care about consent when it's them, not others and even refuses.