FWIW, I married into a prefab family and raised step children until they graduated high-school when I was about 39. I was "not sure" I wanted kids of my own, to

FWIW, I married into a prefab family and raised step children until they graduated high-school when I was about 39. I was "not sure" I wanted kids of my own, to be honest I was somewhat intimidated by small children, so this worked out fine. It was then my wife, who was then 44 and I had our first together, and it was and is wonderful. The way you mention age implies something that may or may not be true in your specific situation - e.g. 40-45 is not automatically too old. Being older and more stable did make certain things about having kids (again) easier and more enjoyable. And many young couples who aren't able to have children too do adopt. It's something to consider. I found having youngsters in the house made us both feel young again. Tired, but young again :)