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Congrats! I have 2-month old and before he was born lot of people said to me that "dads can't do much in the first 6 months". I was like ok, we'll see how it g
by enra 4y ago
Congrats!
I have 2-month old and before he was born lot of people said to me that "dads can't do much in the first 6 months". I was like ok, we'll see how it goes.
After he was born, I quickly realize dads can absolutely do everything except feed the baby directly from the breast. Breastfeeding itself, depends on the baby and mom, is fairly quick, maybe like takes 15mins every few hours. That leaves about ~22 hours each dad can be part of the activities, like changing diapers, bathing, soothing, having the baby sleep on you, putting the baby to sleep, reading, changing clothes, singing etc.
This "dads can't do much", "there is just this bond with the mom" and "it's biology" seems like bullshit or an easy out from taking responsibility. The bond happens if you just spend time with the baby.
- mcv 4y agoAbsolutely! There's a lot that dads can do, and what's more, I think dads are absolutely essential during the first two weeks, when mom is still recovering from having just pooped an entire baby out of their system. Society is making way too many excuses for men to avoid raising their children, and it really needs to stop.
- dilap 4y agoThanks! What you say makes a lot of sense to me. (And for my part, I already feel a ridiculous amount of bond/attachment/love, just feeling the little guy/girl squirming around in there!)
- Fire-Dragon-DoL 4y agoAs a dad, breastfeeding was a great moment to snuggle with my wife and child and have a few minutes of rest.
- Breza 4y agoCongratulations to you as well! I have a two year old and I had the same realization when I was on paternity leave. You just said it better than I've been able to.