Not a value judgement on either opinion, but, ironically, there is a buddhist perspective here which would rhyme with: that's exactly what you are doing in your

Not a value judgement on either opinion, but, ironically, there is a buddhist perspective here which would rhyme with: that's exactly what you are doing in your normal life without children every second while chasing your ambition. And OP's solution of letting go of yourself is the antidote to that cycle.