this was my exact situation when my kids were small. We added up childcare expenses and it turned out we barely came out ahead with our two income household. Th

this was my exact situation when my kids were small. We added up childcare expenses and it turned out we barely came out ahead with our two income household. The extra money was not worth the commutes and logistics of managing two jobs and daycare for two kids. My wife quit her job, we cut back a little bit, and she stayed at home for about 3 years. Once the kids were school age she went back to work ( she's a teacher ). She did lose some ground on her pension and raises but at this point, about 7 years later, the impact is negligible. I was pretty jealous of stay at home dads (I know two) and the things they were able to for their kids. My kids are older now and that ship has sailed for me.