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I've heard speculation that when caregivers are overloaded, there is a tendency for children to internalize that to get attention they must show elevated distre

I've heard speculation that when caregivers are overloaded, there is a tendency for children to internalize that to get attention they must show elevated distress and act emotionally. Sometimes this manifests in temper tantrums, other times it manifests in breakdowns. I suspect the increasing trend of over-the-top emotional responses we see on social media and in our political discourse has roots in this. The younger generations certainly seem a lot more prone to being overwhelmed emotionally, and perhaps it is because they were inadvertently conditioned to respond this way. I have no way of proving this, however. But if there is some element of truth to this, having more parental attention could go a long way with how the future generations react to stress.

hollywood_court 4y ago
I don't have an opinion on that, but I do know that my child hated daycare and I only learned how much he hated it after he quit going. We drove by his old daycare about a month after I pulled him out and he instantly starting having a breakdown in his car seat. I asked him what was wrong and he said "I don't want to go back to daycare." I told him we were simply driving by en route to the pool, but it took a while to calm him down. I asked him why he didn't want to return and he said "because the teachers are angry." And I believed him and it broke my heart. I myself have many negative memories associated with daycare from the 80s. It was not a pleasant experience. In the US, it seems that we rarely take care of the caregivers to our two most vulnerable groups of citizens. Children and the elderly are cared for by individuals who don't even have the basics to take care of themselves. Yet the owners of the establishments always make their money. I was seeing red and extremely angry when I learned that I had to pay for daycare when they were closed. Regardless of why they were closed. I had to pay for holidays and I had to pay for 3 entire weeks on 3 occasions when one of the staff members caught covid. Yet none of the employees were paid during those times. That was pure profit for the owners of the establishment.
- Firmwarrior 4y ago
  Damn, that's brutal I was looking around for some day care for my kid, and everything here seems to work out to ~$20/hour. I was thinking "Well, I guess that's about what I'd have to charge if I quit working at $FAANG and ran a day care out of my house.." and considering signing up. If it's just some rich prick getting richer while an overworked person in front barely scrapes by, though, that is really infuriating. I guess that fits with every other customer-facing business in the bay area though. I feel lucky any time I make it out of a store without getting punched in the face around here

hollywood_court 4y ago

I don't have an opinion on that, but I do know that my child hated daycare and I only learned how much he hated it after he quit going. We drove by his old daycare about a month after I pulled him out and he instantly starting having a breakdown in his car seat. I asked him what was wrong and he said "I don't want to go back to daycare." I told him we were simply driving by en route to the pool, but it took a while to calm him down. I asked him why he didn't want to return and he said "because the teachers are angry." And I believed him and it broke my heart. I myself have many negative memories associated with daycare from the 80s. It was not a pleasant experience. In the US, it seems that we rarely take care of the caregivers to our two most vulnerable groups of citizens. Children and the elderly are cared for by individuals who don't even have the basics to take care of themselves. Yet the owners of the establishments always make their money. I was seeing red and extremely angry when I learned that I had to pay for daycare when they were closed. Regardless of why they were closed. I had to pay for holidays and I had to pay for 3 entire weeks on 3 occasions when one of the staff members caught covid. Yet none of the employees were paid during those times. That was pure profit for the owners of the establishment.

Firmwarrior 4y ago
Damn, that's brutal I was looking around for some day care for my kid, and everything here seems to work out to ~$20/hour. I was thinking "Well, I guess that's about what I'd have to charge if I quit working at $FAANG and ran a day care out of my house.." and considering signing up. If it's just some rich prick getting richer while an overworked person in front barely scrapes by, though, that is really infuriating. I guess that fits with every other customer-facing business in the bay area though. I feel lucky any time I make it out of a store without getting punched in the face around here