>I don't know what they do. That's the secret. With some parents, when you find out you realize they probably aren't parents who spend much time with their ki

>I don't know what they do. That's the secret. With some parents, when you find out you realize they probably aren't parents who spend much time with their kids. I have a friend who founded a startup a year before becoming a dad. His spouse works for a startup as well. He lives in a different city so we rarely meet nowadays. After about 2 years of listening to them talk about how adorable their kid is and all the time they spend with them, I found out that the kid is dropped off at daycare by mom at 8AM. Nanny picks the kid up from Daycare and puts him to bed at 8PM. Mom and dad basically only see their kid on weekends. Even then, dad is usually too busy and it's pretty obvious that the 3 year old kid has realized he can't rely on his dad for anything. People can raise kids however they want. There are entire cultures and countries where kids are raised by maids and nannies because population density is high and labor is cheap. But they are more honest about who is raising the kids and that's why they can work 12 hour days and focus on their careers or themselves above all else. Somebody has to have the time take care of those kids.