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Oh my - I've been waiting to hear this since forever, and you couldn't have said it better. I feel exactly the same way, and I feel like specially the younger t

Oh my - I've been waiting to hear this since forever, and you couldn't have said it better. I feel exactly the same way, and I feel like specially the younger tech workers are losing a big chunk of what it means to build work relationships (which are some of the best), and to connect with people. I don't know how to fix it as like you said, most people will scream when you mention work from office/

marceloabsousa 4y ago
Second this. After working fully remote for 2+ years and now back to the office, for me it's really great to have an office.
AlwaysRock 4y ago
> younger tech workers are losing a big chunk of what it means to build work relationships (which are some of the best) I dont want to judge but its really hard not to if you see work relationships as some of the best relationships available. They are absolutely relationships that are formed from forced repeated interaction. Maybe I have had a few co workers who I would have naturally become friends with outside of work in the past but I can count those on one hand. If the only reason I am friends with someone is because we are both forced to see each other multiple times a day five times a week then its not a good relationship. Maybe this is a young person thing? A type A person thing? Actual friends, family, sig others, hell even casual acquaintances that I see around town that can develop into actual friendships are all more valuable than work friends.
- tacticalturtle 4y ago
  Why would you struggle not to judge someone who had developed some of their best relationships from work? Studies have shown that the best way to develop friendships is repeated, unplanned interaction. I certainly didn’t make friends with everyone I worked with, but out of that pool, there have been some great ones I wouldn’t have otherwise met. I certainly empathize with the feelings of the parent. Would you feel the same if the parent commenter had some of their best relationships from school, and seeing the same people in class everyday? Or the military? I don’t think the location of these interactions matters.
  - asdadsdad 4y ago
    Also, apparently one advice that keeps showing up from successful entrepreneurs is to build a strong friends network from different places you've worked in. Changes are those people, apart from just being your friends, will probably help you on your next adventure and forward. School is definitely another big one, but once you're out, it's over. Now, if you're stuck at home, it becomes a bit harder to build that bond.
- closeparen 4y ago
  Repeated, unplanned interaction is the basic formula for all friendship development. Most people don't "naturally" become friends with strangers they brush past in public one time. Work is not the only place that can provide repeated, unplanned interaction but once out of school it is the big one.
  - ozim 4y ago
    When I WFH it opens up time to have repeated, unplanned interaction with other people than those chosen by whoever is employing me at the moment.
- asdadsdad 4y ago
  depends on where you live, I guess. I don't know what has been your experience. I've lived in various places of the US, Latin America, and London. I found that the best friends I've made have been from school and work. Not sure I made any good friends "around town"
- slotrans 4y ago
  That's... how people make friends. Did you have friends in school? Same thing. Neighbors? Same thing. Soldiers that fought together and keep in touch after the war? Same thing. Befriend someone you run into at the gym? Same thing. Something has to bring you together. Might as well be work.

marceloabsousa 4y ago

Second this. After working fully remote for 2+ years and now back to the office, for me it's really great to have an office.

AlwaysRock 4y ago

> younger tech workers are losing a big chunk of what it means to build work relationships (which are some of the best) I dont want to judge but its really hard not to if you see work relationships as some of the best relationships available. They are absolutely relationships that are formed from forced repeated interaction. Maybe I have had a few co workers who I would have naturally become friends with outside of work in the past but I can count those on one hand. If the only reason I am friends with someone is because we are both forced to see each other multiple times a day five times a week then its not a good relationship. Maybe this is a young person thing? A type A person thing? Actual friends, family, sig others, hell even casual acquaintances that I see around town that can develop into actual friendships are all more valuable than work friends.

tacticalturtle 4y ago
Why would you struggle not to judge someone who had developed some of their best relationships from work? Studies have shown that the best way to develop friendships is repeated, unplanned interaction. I certainly didn’t make friends with everyone I worked with, but out of that pool, there have been some great ones I wouldn’t have otherwise met. I certainly empathize with the feelings of the parent. Would you feel the same if the parent commenter had some of their best relationships from school, and seeing the same people in class everyday? Or the military? I don’t think the location of these interactions matters.
- asdadsdad 4y ago
  Also, apparently one advice that keeps showing up from successful entrepreneurs is to build a strong friends network from different places you've worked in. Changes are those people, apart from just being your friends, will probably help you on your next adventure and forward. School is definitely another big one, but once you're out, it's over. Now, if you're stuck at home, it becomes a bit harder to build that bond.
closeparen 4y ago
Repeated, unplanned interaction is the basic formula for all friendship development. Most people don't "naturally" become friends with strangers they brush past in public one time. Work is not the only place that can provide repeated, unplanned interaction but once out of school it is the big one.
- ozim 4y ago
  When I WFH it opens up time to have repeated, unplanned interaction with other people than those chosen by whoever is employing me at the moment.
asdadsdad 4y ago
depends on where you live, I guess. I don't know what has been your experience. I've lived in various places of the US, Latin America, and London. I found that the best friends I've made have been from school and work. Not sure I made any good friends "around town"
slotrans 4y ago
That's... how people make friends. Did you have friends in school? Same thing. Neighbors? Same thing. Soldiers that fought together and keep in touch after the war? Same thing. Befriend someone you run into at the gym? Same thing. Something has to bring you together. Might as well be work.