I agree with this take 100%. I also think for all of the different perspectives the biggest one I try to achieve is "if you're not happy your kids won't be happ

I agree with this take 100%. I also think for all of the different perspectives the biggest one I try to achieve is "if you're not happy your kids won't be happy". So hobbies and needs should be met if they are really what put you in a better place. Babies and toddlers require a large amount of work and there are surely sacrifices but if you're miserable it's not helping your children and they will know.