I'm a DINK so I'm on the side of watching people with kids struggle to find time to do things without their kids. My observation is a person's free time all boi

I'm a DINK so I'm on the side of watching people with kids struggle to find time to do things without their kids. My observation is a person's free time all boils down to how both parents decide to divide parenting responsibilities. It seems completely possible to find a balance to do what you want with kids, just not everything you want. I have friends where them and their SO seem to have really figured out how to divide things to make sure everyone has their own time. On the other hand, I have a friend whose spouse is weirdly transactional about time. He literally cannot find time unless his SO is given exactly the same amount of time. If he wants to go golfing twice in the same weekend - tough luck. It honestly comes across like they really don't want to be around their kids.