<<1) I still spend a lot of time with friends and can do most of my personal hobbies/activities on weekends. My wife and I are good at sharing the load. You don

<<1) I still spend a lot of time with friends and can do most of my personal hobbies/activities on weekends. My wife and I are good at sharing the load. You don't need 2 parents watching kids 100% of the time. I think this is one of the biggest factors in terms of successful child rearing. I am relatively lucky in that aspect that we seem to make it work ( 9/10 -- we just had a longer conversation about it; clearly due to miscommunication some expectations were not conveyed openly enough ), but everyone's situation may be a little different and accommodation may be needed to find appropriate balance. << 3) You actually like hanging out with your own kids. I talk to a lot of people who are anchored to some negative experience they had 10 years ago babysitting for someone else's kids, as if that was representative of parenting life. It's not at all. At the end of the day, I actually rush to finish up my work so I can have more kid time. It's fun. Full agreement here. That was the second time I was reminded what vicarious really means.