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Any time I read a comment like this, I have to ask, when do you get time to do things with your partner? When do you do chores? For most people it's the evening
by bojan 4y ago
Any time I read a comment like this, I have to ask, when do you get time to do things with your partner? When do you do chores? For most people it's the evening, which you don't have, and in the morning you do your own stuff.
Or am I assuming too much and you are a single parent?
- throw123123123 4y agoYou don't. But kids grow up - it doesn't stay this way forever.
- Tade0 4y ago> You don't. I recall my SO asking my relative's wife (mother of three) what to do if you're already out of energy and dinner is not ready. "Some days there just won't be any dinner for you" was the reply.
- robbie-c 4y agoNaively it seems like things like frozen ready meals or meal replacers (Soylent, Huel) would be an easy fix (I wouldn't give them to the kids, but for a tired parent it'd be better than nothing). I'm not a parent though (although planning to be), so am keen to know why that's wrong.
- actionfromafar 4y agoIt might have been implied. A sandwich or whatever.
- Tade0 4y agoIt's not wrong - you do what you can to stay nourished. The only wrong approaches I can identify is beating yourself up about not preparing a decent meal for yourself and not eating at all. Both me and my SO lost weight in the first months because we made the former mistake.
- robbie-c 4y agoThanks for your comments, it's really helpful to hear other people's experiences :)
- Taikonerd 4y agoI am a parent of 2, and you're right: I've never skipped a dinner, but sometimes that dinner has to be a bowl of cereal. The webcomic SMBC says it well: https://www.smbc-comics.com/comic/before https://www.smbc-comics.com/comic/before
- rdtwo 4y agoMac and cheese….
- amerkhalid 4y ago> You don't. Thank you for saying this. I strongly believe this is the right action until kids are older and start helping around the house. (Still trying to convince my SO though.) Honestly, raising kids is not that hard if you give yourself permission to be not perfect. Order pizza, avoid using plates when you can, let yard overgrow a bit, hire cleaning service. Bail out of unwanted social obligations. In fact, trying to get approval of others is what makes parenting hard.
- sturadnidge 4y agoIt’s common in many parts of the world for people to get their weekly housework done by someone else. Failing that, there’s always the weekend.
- yesimahuman 4y agoOnce kids get slightly older you have routines and they become so much easier to manage. My partner and I get plenty of time together once the kids go to bed, especially on the weekends since they don’t nap at school (ugh). The secret is being very focused on routines.