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What do prefer? Giving up on having kids and staying with your partner, trying to cope with regret. I bet the regret alreay takes a toll on the relationship an

What do prefer? Giving up on having kids and staying with your partner, trying to cope with regret. I bet the regret alreay takes a toll on the relationship and the probability is high that the relationship ends in a divorce either way. (Divorce statistics in your region?) Divorce and find a younger and religious woman ready to have many kids. You might lose some friends and people might turn away considering your behavior selfish. But you would gain a family and that would be your world. It is not too late to correct a mistake.

mstipetic 4y ago
Why does she have to be religious?
- riebnik 4y ago
  She does not have to, I am merely painting a possible path in a colorful way.
  - arez 4y ago
    sry, but the picture you're painting might be rational but I don't agree with it. Just because the divorce statistics might be bad doesn't mean you should breakup, just because he is unhappy now doesn't mean he will be unhappy in the future, same goes for the marriage, just because it's bad now doesn't mean it will be bad forever. Just because I want something doesn't mean I should go for it without looking left and right. You also lose something if you decide to change things. He could just adopt or maybe he would just like kids around him, so he could work in a soccer club, kindergarten or something else part time.
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deadbeef57 4y ago
I think this is very very bad advice. You don't fix one mistake by making another one. OP said that he dearly loves his wife. I think that's marvelous and he should treasure that. Divorce would indeed be selfish behavior, as you recognize. And that's not where you find happiness and a fulfilling life. (Aside: your attempt to make the suggestion colorful by adding that the woman should be religious is quite weird. For many religious people, selfishness and divorce are not things that make a partner attractive.)

mstipetic 4y ago

Why does she have to be religious?

riebnik 4y ago
She does not have to, I am merely painting a possible path in a colorful way.
- arez 4y ago
  sry, but the picture you're painting might be rational but I don't agree with it. Just because the divorce statistics might be bad doesn't mean you should breakup, just because he is unhappy now doesn't mean he will be unhappy in the future, same goes for the marriage, just because it's bad now doesn't mean it will be bad forever. Just because I want something doesn't mean I should go for it without looking left and right. You also lose something if you decide to change things. He could just adopt or maybe he would just like kids around him, so he could work in a soccer club, kindergarten or something else part time.
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deadbeef57 4y ago

I think this is very very bad advice. You don't fix one mistake by making another one. OP said that he dearly loves his wife. I think that's marvelous and he should treasure that. Divorce would indeed be selfish behavior, as you recognize. And that's not where you find happiness and a fulfilling life. (Aside: your attempt to make the suggestion colorful by adding that the woman should be religious is quite weird. For many religious people, selfishness and divorce are not things that make a partner attractive.)