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This is like an ad for never having children.

gambiting 4y ago
I mean..................yes. It's weird. I love our son, he's literally my pride and joy and I would do anything for him without hesitation. He's genuine pleasure to be around and makes me so happy every day. Having him also made me reconsider the priorities in my life, realize that work isn't as important as I thought and the world will keep turning even if I'm not doing 10 hour days, it's fine. I would rather spend time with him than do pretty much anything else. But at the same time........the sleepless nights, the arguments with your partner(because you are both exhausted and the smallest thing can explode), the financial cost, the stress whenever something isn't right and you're pulling your hair out..........I absolutely 100000% don't want a second one. Nope. Not worth it. So...............take that as you will :-)
- aconst 4y ago
  I really understand why some people try to pack all their children in as few years as possible. My son came almost 10 years after my daughter, he's still not yet 6 and still very demanding (while my daughter was objectively less, but still I barely slept during 2 or 3 years). I'll die young ^^;
  - skinnymuch 4y ago
    Do you recommend packing 2 kids into a smaller time frame from your experience?
    - aconst 4y ago
      Not necessarily, there are pros and cons. My daughter got a lot of attention as she was a single child during 9 years (considering the pregnancy for my son, which removed some attention, I won't tell 9 years and 9 months :D) and now we have a lot of attention for my son. At the same time they cannot play as much as I played with my 14 month older brother, we are limited to what we can do with my son and that often doesn't match with what my daughter would like to do, while with a smaller time frame they would have more similar interest. At least, he's tall and adventurous enough already to be able to do nice roller coasters now :D I would be less tired if he was older and more independent. But actually in my case, there is also the fact my wife is studying to be a nurse, dedicating a lot of energy for it, so that I have to do more chores while I was already the one doing the most at home...

I mean..................yes. It's weird. I love our son, he's literally my pride and joy and I would do anything for him without hesitation. He's genuine pleasure to be around and makes me so happy every day. Having him also made me reconsider the priorities in my life, realize that work isn't as important as I thought and the world will keep turning even if I'm not doing 10 hour days, it's fine. I would rather spend time with him than do pretty much anything else. But at the same time........the sleepless nights, the arguments with your partner(because you are both exhausted and the smallest thing can explode), the financial cost, the stress whenever something isn't right and you're pulling your hair out..........I absolutely 100000% don't want a second one. Nope. Not worth it. So...............take that as you will :-)

aconst 4y ago
I really understand why some people try to pack all their children in as few years as possible. My son came almost 10 years after my daughter, he's still not yet 6 and still very demanding (while my daughter was objectively less, but still I barely slept during 2 or 3 years). I'll die young ^^;
- skinnymuch 4y ago
  Do you recommend packing 2 kids into a smaller time frame from your experience?
  - aconst 4y ago
    Not necessarily, there are pros and cons. My daughter got a lot of attention as she was a single child during 9 years (considering the pregnancy for my son, which removed some attention, I won't tell 9 years and 9 months :D) and now we have a lot of attention for my son. At the same time they cannot play as much as I played with my 14 month older brother, we are limited to what we can do with my son and that often doesn't match with what my daughter would like to do, while with a smaller time frame they would have more similar interest. At least, he's tall and adventurous enough already to be able to do nice roller coasters now :D I would be less tired if he was older and more independent. But actually in my case, there is also the fact my wife is studying to be a nurse, dedicating a lot of energy for it, so that I have to do more chores while I was already the one doing the most at home...