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37, almost 38 and no kids, doing what you are describing right now all over the world, and it is absolutely amazing. I think your depression and feeling of ever

37, almost 38 and no kids, doing what you are describing right now all over the world, and it is absolutely amazing. I think your depression and feeling of everything being overrated is a you thing, and not everyone feels that way. This has been the best decade of my life and I have been poor the whole time, just hustling and making things work how i can with jobs and money and exploring the world and the people

saiya-jin 4y ago
Been there, done that (and tons of adrenaline/extreme sports on top of that), it feels amazing when you discover it and few more years, but novelty wears off a bit eventually. Had kids, and those years brought some nice memories and personal growth, but otherwise they were shallow. There is no more depth in life than raising kids properly, the good and bad combined. If you are up to it.
Shocka1 4y ago
I'd agree with you. As a sidenote, I held an American professional Superbike racing license through most of my 20s and did a whole bunch of crazy stuff I won't mention here on top of it. Watched several people die and get maimed in one of the many races I competed in. Before that I spent some time in the Marines, including time in a warzone. I have a few regrets from a couple bad decisions I made, but I enjoyed every moment of that absolutely crazy life and never felt more alive looking back at it. It seems like an old dream I had at this point - In my 30s I slowed down, got married and had children. It's much different than my previous life, but it's been a wonderful and powerful experience as well. I feel like I've had my cake and ate it too, and you bet ya I feel blessed every single day to be here taking my share of fresh air. It would be interesting to see my thoughts if I had never had kids, but I feel as though it would be positive either way because I choose it to be. That being said, I do feel personally like there is more to life than living for yourself. Whether that transfers to having kids or volunteering somewhere to help others, etc., I'll leave that decision to the reader.

saiya-jin 4y ago

Been there, done that (and tons of adrenaline/extreme sports on top of that), it feels amazing when you discover it and few more years, but novelty wears off a bit eventually. Had kids, and those years brought some nice memories and personal growth, but otherwise they were shallow. There is no more depth in life than raising kids properly, the good and bad combined. If you are up to it.

Shocka1 4y ago

I'd agree with you. As a sidenote, I held an American professional Superbike racing license through most of my 20s and did a whole bunch of crazy stuff I won't mention here on top of it. Watched several people die and get maimed in one of the many races I competed in. Before that I spent some time in the Marines, including time in a warzone. I have a few regrets from a couple bad decisions I made, but I enjoyed every moment of that absolutely crazy life and never felt more alive looking back at it. It seems like an old dream I had at this point - In my 30s I slowed down, got married and had children. It's much different than my previous life, but it's been a wonderful and powerful experience as well. I feel like I've had my cake and ate it too, and you bet ya I feel blessed every single day to be here taking my share of fresh air. It would be interesting to see my thoughts if I had never had kids, but I feel as though it would be positive either way because I choose it to be. That being said, I do feel personally like there is more to life than living for yourself. Whether that transfers to having kids or volunteering somewhere to help others, etc., I'll leave that decision to the reader.