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> The only opportunities I ever got and which worked out with moderate success were the ones where everyone was telling me that it was a waste of time... Waste

by mkl95 4y ago

> The only opportunities I ever got and which worked out with moderate success were the ones where everyone was telling me that it was a waste of time... Waste of time if I was a lucky spoiled brat maybe I agree... one of my relatives hates programming and used to tell me learning to code was a waste of time. Now I get a bigger check at the end of the month despite the fact he's an overworked doctor, and I'm sitting on my arse at home building some CRUD. Pick carefully who you listen to.

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doubled112 4y ago
I'm in my thirties and my mother still gives me a hard time about the hours I "waste" on a computer, both now and as a kid. Sure mom, but I make more than you and dad ever did doing less, and it's feeding your grandchildren. What do you want from me?
- mastersummoner 4y ago
  What does she think you should be doing instead?
  - doubled112 4y ago
    The discussion usually starts with "I wish you'd have gotten good money and done..." and ends in whatever career is better in her mind that day. It's usually a trade. Stopped paying real attention years ago, but it's usually a story where she knows a person who makes however many dollars a year and I could have too. I don't think this discussion would have been any different if I was in one of those jobs. That person usually works 60-80 hours a week. She leaves out the times when it isn't a great year in that area and they were laid off for 8 months. She misses the toll on your body working like that takes. She doesn't realize the cost of the trucks and the tools, if you need them. I guess it is easier when you simplify down to $X a year for your best year.
    - bombcar 4y ago
      I've found that in some cases it comes from not being able to understand what you do here as Office Space would say. If you were a plumber, she'd have an easy answer when talking to her friends about what doubled112 does. Plumber is a job everyone understands at a basic level; most of the trades are because you can point to a finished product. "He builds things like that." Sometimes an analogy can help; I've definitely told people I'm an internet plumber and that seems to satisfy their curiosity.
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vanviegen 4y ago
> Now I get a bigger check at the end of the month despite the fact he's an overworked doctor, and I'm sitting on my arse at home building some CRUD. I'm not sure you come out as the winner here...

by mkl95 4y ago

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doubled112 4y ago

I'm in my thirties and my mother still gives me a hard time about the hours I "waste" on a computer, both now and as a kid. Sure mom, but I make more than you and dad ever did doing less, and it's feeding your grandchildren. What do you want from me?

mastersummoner 4y ago
What does she think you should be doing instead?
- doubled112 4y ago
  The discussion usually starts with "I wish you'd have gotten good money and done..." and ends in whatever career is better in her mind that day. It's usually a trade. Stopped paying real attention years ago, but it's usually a story where she knows a person who makes however many dollars a year and I could have too. I don't think this discussion would have been any different if I was in one of those jobs. That person usually works 60-80 hours a week. She leaves out the times when it isn't a great year in that area and they were laid off for 8 months. She misses the toll on your body working like that takes. She doesn't realize the cost of the trucks and the tools, if you need them. I guess it is easier when you simplify down to $X a year for your best year.
  - bombcar 4y ago
    I've found that in some cases it comes from not being able to understand what you do here as Office Space would say. If you were a plumber, she'd have an easy answer when talking to her friends about what doubled112 does. Plumber is a job everyone understands at a basic level; most of the trades are because you can point to a finished product. "He builds things like that." Sometimes an analogy can help; I've definitely told people I'm an internet plumber and that seems to satisfy their curiosity.
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vanviegen 4y ago

> Now I get a bigger check at the end of the month despite the fact he's an overworked doctor, and I'm sitting on my arse at home building some CRUD. I'm not sure you come out as the winner here...