People have made having kids into a Mission Impossible: as if the only way to raise them is to give them the most perfect time, education, fun, etc. There is a

People have made having kids into a Mission Impossible: as if the only way to raise them is to give them the most perfect time, education, fun, etc. There is a difference between understanding it is a bit of a commitment, that there are better and worse ways to do things, as is true for any worthwhile endeavor, and setting yourself up for failure by imagining you can do no less than fully plan out and control a perfect upbringing. Have a little faith in yourself, humans have done this for a while, without both knowledge we have now (which will help you) and unhealthy perfectionist culture (which can only stand in your way). I'm the last person to convince anyone to get kids, but, as in other parts of life, I object to the perfectionist path. If that's what's stopping someone: relax! It's a big deal, but not the mountain you imagine it to be. Also, you probably have no idea of the rewards. I didn't expect kids to be fun from basically day 1. To see them experiencing and learning from the very first days on is such a treat! Also, biology has prepared you with instincts that you don't know exist until you need them.